For being successful in your business life an excellent network makes things easier. As we already pointed out in “Identifying customers with social networking” knowing people is only a competitive advantage when people like you and trust your competence. Hand in hand with this goes that creating long-term relationships is very important as you can generate the best results for your business with them. Good reputation and trust are two reasons for this (see “How to get customer loyality through social networking“).
Rajesh Setty picks up this topic in his really interesting manifesto “Making the most of your time” on “Change this” as well as on his blog. Although the title might be a bit misleading as you would expect mainly notes about time management in general. Whereas you can find some very good thoughts about how to establish long-lasting, valuable contacts as well.
His answer of how to get people to like you and establish long-term contacts is pretty old: “Give first and then you get”. Or as others call
it more scientifically “the law of reciprocity”.
Here are some points to establish long-term relationship pointed out in the article:
- Create more opportunities for them as compared to the request you make
- Help people identify their strengths
- Introduce people in your network that are opportunities for each other
Especially the last point (introducing people with each other that are not yet personally connected) provides your contacts real value.
As doing this usually does not require much effort on your side, it is a highly effective practice. Whenever you talk to someone ask yourself “is there somebody in my network where it is beneficial for both of them to get to know each other”?
It’s simple. And it’s very effective.

